In the self-help/personal development industry, almost everybody, one way or another, preaches goal-setting. Most people have heard about SMART goals (if you have not, it basically means having goals that are Specific in their outcome, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely). And then there are people who talk about visionary goals, dreams that you set without having any idea how to achieve them. No wonder why people are confused. Once you understand the purpose of goals, why you (should) set goals and how the process you can easily understand what you have to do to make it work. And here it is in three simple steps.
1. Figure Out What You Want (You’ve already done it)
Most people answer to the question why they set goals that it is for clarifying and figuring out what they really want. That is only partially true. While people get clearer in their own image of what they already know they want, goal-setting does not help to figure out desires. That is already done. You know what you want, although you might not be consciously aware of it in this moment. But there is a part inside of you that focuses only on what you want, big AND small.
You have had enough experience to know what you prefer and what you do not like. In fact, for most of my clients it is rather easy to articulate what they do not like. The only thing necessary to articulate the other side of the medal, so-to-speak, is to look at the opposite of what is unwanted where you find what indeed IS wanted. However, goal-setting helps you to clarify the intentions of what you want to experience. And by “experience” I mean “being, having, or doing something.”
Once you start to articulate what it is that you want, you will immediately feel an emotional shift within you. Sometimes it is stronger sometimes it is subtler; the intensity of your emotion is determined by your intensity of desire and the emotional standpoint from where you articulate your goals. In essence, your journey towards the goal has begun in the moment you have identified the desire.
2. Focus on the Emotional Presence of What-Is-Wanted (Practice your mind!)
The true purpose of goal-setting is to receive a glimpse of how it feels to have that desire present in your experience. If you look at the things (or people or situations) you want in your life and to imagine, ponder, and visualize—just for fun—how it would feel like to experience them, you will transform your life easily and quickly. There are two simple laws of your mind that apply here:
First, you experience in your life what you believe. Your experience of the world pretty much depends on your beliefs about it. The reason this law of your mind is not as obvious as it could be is because many people have similar beliefs so that it seems that the world really is the way we think it is. In fact, it is the other way around. Our world is a reflection of our mind. Somebody who sincerely believes that strangers are friends they have not met, yet, will have a very different experience of the world from the experiences from those who believe that humans are inherently evil and ego-driven.
The second law of the mind that applies here states that you believe what you think consistently. In other words, repetition of thought creates belief. What you think and feel will sooner or later become a belief, and ultimately builds the world you live in. The emotion will indicate to you whether a belief is hindering to your desire or whether it is in harmony with it. A different way of saying that is whether that thought is limiting you in your capacity to achieve or whether it is enabling or empowering.
Many say only action leads to getting what you want. Now, understand this: All actions that you ever take depend on your perception and your logic. It is important to know that your logic, your reason, and your perception are determined by your mindset. And your mindset consists of your dominant and active thoughts and beliefs. Now, you do not have to analyze all beliefs or thoughts that you currently think and you definitely cannot “de-activate” any of them. However, by the way how you usually feel, what emotional state you are in most of the time, you know whether you generally move towards your desires or whether you stand in the way of them.
Goal-setting is an exercise in practicing the mind to the familiarity of the presence of what is wanted. And the more you focus on the presence of what you want, the more natural it will feel to you, the more believable it will feel to you. That is the key. In the end, it comes down to practicing your focus because that will make the difference in whether you achieve your goals or whether your goals will annoy you in time. In the very end, yes, there will be action but that is the next step.
3. Maintaining the Focus and Inspired Action (Momentum is the key)
Quick Recap: The more you maintain the emotion of the presence of what you want, the more believable what you want becomes. Once your mind adjusts to these autosuggestions and new thoughts that you practice, your perception will change. You will see ways of how it can work instead of reasons why it cannot. You will see opportunities and you will perceive inspirations to act. These actions will not feel overwhelming or like the effort that pushes you. Rather, these actions will feel compelling to you. In other words, you do not need to worry about action at all, because it is an inevitable part of the process of achievement.
Your mindset does 99 percent of the work; the 1 percent of necessary action will be fun and easy to do. The tricky part is to train your mind to stay focused on what you want so that you create patterns of success that allow the momentum to catch you that eventually leads you to where you want. However, most people let their mind be occupied with what they perceive around them. They do not make the decision to focus on the presence of what they want within them, although what they want is absent in their current outside-reality.
How long does it take to achieve a goal?
The answer is this question: How long does it take you to train your mind to focus on the presence of what you want? Once you are in the state of mind where you do not need the thing you want to be emotionally satisfied, that is the moment of realization when inspired action enters the picture. Depending on the subject, whether it’s hard or easy, you can achieve that state of mind quicker or slower. A coach, who knows what he or she does, can help you to accelerate the process of achieving. Important is that you train your focus and accomplish a momentum of success.
Can success be easy?
Sometimes people accuse me of making success sound easy. And they are right, I do teach that success is easy, because it is. But how is it, they ask me then, that so few people are successful? And the question is justified. Jim Rohn, one of the great mentors in the personal development field, said once: “If it is easy to do, it is easy not to do.” Most people, in fact all of them, who wish for more success than they currently experience, have patterns that hinder success and that come from (unknowingly) misusing the power of focus. They do not understand how their mind is responsible for the quality of their life and how the process of achievement and fulfillment works. Once they do, they will agree that success can indeed be easy.
About the author
Marc Breetzke, M.A., M.A. is the founder and head of
MB Inspirations. He helps companies and individuals all over the world to create their next breakthrough in business and personal life in order to accelerate the realization of their desires and goals.
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